Supporting Yourself and Others Through Grief
Grief is a deeply personal journey that affects mind, body, and spirit. It is important to care for yourself as you move through loss, while also offering gentle support to those who are grieving around you. There is no right or wrong way to grieve—only what feels authentic and healing. The guidance below may help you find balance between caring for your own well-being and being present for others.
Caring for Yourself in Grief
Grief brings many emotions, from sadness and anger to confusion or even relief, and all of them are valid. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment, and be patient with the time it takes to heal. Focusing on self-care—rest, meals, movement, and simple routines—can help restore balance when life feels overwhelming. If needed, reach out to friends, family, or professional support to lighten the weight of grief.

Supporting a Grieving Loved One
Being present matters more than saying the perfect words. Checking in regularly, offering a listening ear, or helping with practical tasks like meals or errands can provide comfort. Sharing memories of the person who has died can be a powerful reminder of love and connection, offering healing moments in the midst of sorrow.

Nicholas Collura
Board-certified interfaith healthcare chaplain
Nicholas Collura is a board-certified interfaith healthcare chaplain who trained at Einstein Medical Center and the Massachusetts General Hospital before working for several years in palliative care and bereavement for two healthcare institutions in Philadelphia. Splitting his time between Philadelphia and Boston, he works as a spiritual director and also directs an ethics program at MIT.



